Improving Your Self Esteem by Mel Kotlyar
It is an unfortunate fact that most people live in a world where they are constantly being bullied, pushed, belittled, and their sense of individuality is consistently being questioned. Are you one of these unfortunate people? If you are, you need to know that it is within your power to change all that, and start living a life that empowers and supports you.
The first thing you need to work on is what is going on inside your mind. The reason for this is that your life and self-esteem is just a reflection of what your viewpoints are. As humans, we have a tendency to cling to the perceptions that we have held for a long time, even if they limit us and our potential. If you really take a look at those perceptions though, you can make a conscious decision to distance yourself from them if they drag you down.
The level at which you value or “esteem” yourself is what really determines the level of success you are capable of reaching in life. If you have very low self-esteem, you are going to have a hard time achieving any sort of success in your lifetime. On the other hand, if you have healthy self-esteem you are much more likely to allow yourself big dreams, accept who you are, and to get what you want in life.
While you don’t want to get overly upset about breaking a commitment, one good way to build your self-esteem is by honoring commitments you make. When you make commitments to yourself to do things or improve yourself in some way, you need to make sure and follow through with them. If you don’t, you are sabotaging yourself. If you notice this happening repeatedly, you need to ask why you are doing this to yourself.
If you feel that you have low self-esteem and that you are hindering yourself, then there are some questions that you can ask yourself. These questions have been known to completely change your mindset about yourself in a positive direction. This is a form of NLP that will get your mind working in a positive direction and will help you start making changes.
1. Ask yourself what you feel is limiting you in an area of your life where you have low self-esteem.
2. Take a look at what you think is limiting you, and how you know that it really is a limitation.
3. Figure out when you decided that the limitation existed, and determine what you were like before this decision.
4. Become the person you were before you made that decision and ask yourself what you would decide now, as that person. Retain those positive decisions you just got and fit them on for size.
5. Finally, ask yourself what makes you so different now than you were back then with those old beliefs.
The answer that you will probably come to is that there is really no reason for you to have placed that limitation on yourself. Now you just need to figure out how you are going to integrate this new view into your life. You should start seeing improvement in your self-esteem very quickly.
To Your New 2011 Self-Esteem,
Mel
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I have been a serial entrepreneur since I started my first internet company at 19 and almost a decade later I have started and run over 6 companies in 4 different industries. I was able to semi-retire in 2007 and left it all behind to relocate to a remote island in Central America. After about a year of living on an Island (where I met the love of my life, Kate) I came back with a renewed sense of purpose. That’s when I decided to follow my passion and purpose here on earth; to guide other entrepreneurs turn their hobbies and passions into self perpetuating businesses.
In a nutshell, I’m sure everyone knows someone who has ‘it.’ Well, the formula to having ‘it’ is simple.
1. get educated! Not just book smart, but street smart. Know what is happening in the world around you and don’t be afraid to express.
2. alway walk into a room like you own the place. If you carry yourself with a certain swagger, people will believe you do, indeed, own the place!
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